This is for you, soon-to-be momma of two, or three, or four, or… ok, not five. I can’t help you there-you’re on your own with that many! But seriously, this is to assure you if your first child was easy that your second probably won’t be a terror like everyone says. The most frequent comment I received during my second pregnancy? “oh… second children are always the difficult ones”.
I’m here to tell you, sleep deprived momma, that this couldn’t have been further from the truth for us. I actually now understand what an “easy baby” is. We were young and didn’t know any better the first time. Our first child ate every hour on the hour, if not sooner, until he was 6 months old and normally wouldn’t sleep unless held. I’m sure personality, diet, and a myriad of outside factors probably contribute to a baby’s temperament (see my previous post here for my theory…), but don’t let those comments scare you. Our second child is the happiest, healthiest, chubbiest, most chill tiny human I’ve seen yet!
Moral of the story? Every child is different for so many reasons. Had an easy first child and are terrified that your second will pop out like Stripe from the movie Gremlins (oh come on guys… you know, Gremlins the movie? I can’t be that old…)? Relax… chances are they will be a calm, happy baby. From what I’ve seen with our kids and everyone else around us the second child tends to be content in any situation. It may be that they’re so used to waiting for food, to be held, or just hanging out while mom cooks dinner, takes care of the older kids, or cleans that they just roll with it. Props to you, second children! May you be easy on your second time mommas!